But still, I’m a big proponent of life experience and wisdom. This is a valid concern to men looking to have families, so let’s not overlook it. Now, there is a flaw in this system – the biological clock - which is much worse at 38 than at 23.
And when all my friends would make fun of me and say, “Why would you date an older woman when you could be dating a younger woman?” I’d say, “Why would I be dating a younger woman when I can date an older woman?” As far as I’m concerned, every woman is better at 28 than at 23, better at 33 than at 28, and so on. As a younger guy, I used to flirt with my mom’s friends. I was with a 35-year-old woman when I was 20. You know how I know this? Because I’M that guy. Because he may be a great communicator, mature for his age, and relationship-minded, but he’s also, y’know, a BABY. Because he’s been in the workforce for oh, about four years. Why? Because he was born in the 80’s, right about the time that you were losing your virginity in college. And for every Demi and Ashton (Celebrities, They’re Just Like Us!), there are thousands of other instances of cross-generational relationships that die a quick, painless death. I’m here to observe society and report back to you how things USUALLY work out. See, I’m not here to set the rules for society. However, if you’re looking for good, clean (and not-so-clean) fun with a young stallion, you can have an amazing time. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, you’re most likely wasting your time with this kid. Why Dating a Younger Man in Your 40s is a Doomed Relationship However, if you feel like you’re looking for good, clean (and not-so-clean) fun with a young stallion, you can have an amazing time. Let me use more words to say it: If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, you’re most likely wasting your time dating a younger man. As a so-called dating expert, I really appreciate the kind words! Which is why I’m sure you’re going to be completely receptive to this: I really enjoy reading your blog and I feel that of many so-called dating experts that you are right on! In your opinion, what do younger men (guys in their twenties) really expect and/or want when contacting an older woman? The youngest guy I have ever been out with is 33. But I still feel that maybe it’s a mistake…what do I really have in common with this guy? After all, I am twenty years older than he is. I was curious about dating a younger man. Recently, however, I was contacted by a younger guy in his mid-twenties and I was impressed by his profile…he’s mature, intelligent, articulate, and attractive. I get contacted by a fair number of younger men in their 20’s and most I don’t respond to because I just feel it won’t go anywhere. I am often told I am beautiful and I look about 10 years younger than I my age. I have probably more dates than the average woman and I just can’t seem to find a guy I want to date. I am a year and a half out of a relationship and in that time, I have found only one guy I was interested in but he did the vanishing act. I am in my mid-forties and I have been online dating off and on for about 2 ½ years and dating in general for 4 years. Only a tiny percent of relationships with 10-year age gaps turn into marriage, so the best way to approach dating younger men is with an open mind and realistic expectations. Whether you’re seeking a casual relationship or a long-term commitment, the older woman/younger man dynamic offers a distinct set of benefits. However, don’t let the stigma of being a ‘cougar’ deter you from finding a new love connection.
You must have a thick skin because it goes against society’s norms and expectations. That said, there are some main things to keep in mind when dating someone younger. But the question remains: what do younger guys want with women in their 40s? Does an age difference matter? If so, how much of an age gap is acceptable before there’s a huge generation and culture gap?įirst off, there’s no set formula for dating younger men. They’re cute, energetic and do not carry the same baggage as middle-aged men. If you’re an older, wiser, and a more mature woman.